I heard another excellent lecture by my teacher, on the "Importance of Investigation" when deciding a matter. Listen to both sides of the story before making a decision.
We live in an overwhelming dissatisfied society. Everyone has a sob story; something to complain and grieve about. Sometimes the complaints and accusations are rather harsh and untruthful but we blast them so easily, without thinking of its consequences. A small sentence, unjustly spoken against someone, can easily ruin our lives.
My Salah is spoiled whenever I say something erroneous. If I speak ill of someone, the very next day, I either I do not wake up for Fajr salah on time or do not find any khushu (concentration and closeness to Allah) in my salah. This is from the punishment of Allah. Whenever sins become easy to commit and opportunities to do good deeds constantly slip away, realize that Allah is displeased with you because of a sin.
Another sign of Allah's displeasure is the condition of one's heart. After complaining about someone and debasing them in front of people, the heart feels bleak and bereft. A sense of emptiness weighs down upon the heart. Despite venting out frustration, a sense of dejected and misery plagues the mind. The is opposite is true for a good deed. A kind action, one pleasing to Allah, brings contentment happiness and peace. The heart feels lighter and the mind experiences comfort.
So anyone who complains a lot but still feels constantly grief-stricken and unable to do anything good in his/her life, should immediately abandon the act of complaining and repent to Allah.
Moreover, complaining all the time, makes us seem arrogant, disdainful and egocentric. By insulting others, we debase our own reputation. No one wants to befriend a grousing, sniveling bleater. Such people loose their trust and respect in society.
Worst of all, badmouthing people takes away our focus from productive work. Our priorities are sidestepped by narcissistic animosities. We live a life of anger, offended by every small thing.
Allah advised Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w), "So be patient, as were those of determination among the messengers and do not be impatient for them." [Qur'an, 46:35]
ReplyDeleteThe impulse to complain ticks like a bomb in all of us. We catapult endless complaints upon the slightest adversity. Get emotional, take it to heart and react preposterously, loosing sleep and peace of mind and damning other people to the same consequence.
it is best to avoid conflict altogether. If you want to get things done, do them, by availing the opportunities at hand. Do not challenge the status quo and get tangled in arguing over the possible logistics of something. Work your way around the mountains, don't smash your head in it.
The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) did not insist on first purging the Ka'bah of its idols and then preaching Tawheed. He taught the Qur'an in Masjid al Haram and prayed towards the Ka'bah despite the idols being there. Result? Many people were profoundly influenced by the Qur'an and they accepted Islam without any ruckus. Makkah remained a peaceful environment and Muslims, a peaceful people.
So if you want to achieve something in your life, want an impetus to your endeavours - then stop complaining and stop retaliating. Do what you can, in the best way possible, silently and humbly and inshaAllah, u'll be successful.