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Saturday, July 21, 2012

I am not doing anything with my life - rant

This is not to undermine the people in the my life, or the time I spend with them. I love my family - my parents, siblings and inlaws. I love serving them, learning from them and yes, goofing around with them :) This rant is basically to shame me into studying more and taking my religious/professional goals more seriously.

My early religious training was in the Islamic faith. This, however, was a matter of birth, not choice - our early religious training is generally in faith of our parents. Later in life, our religion is usually accepted as a matter of fact. We, however, question and examine everything except our family religious traditions, particularly if we are from India, Pakistan or Bangladesh.
The Qur'an, being the Islamic textbook, is a source which I read in its original language (Arabic) many times. Almost every Muslim home contains the Arabic Qur'an, but it is generally used as a mantelpiece decoration. The Qur'an is a book that nobody knows but everyone reads. As bizarre as it may sound, inspite of being charmed by the glamour of many sins, Muslims take pride in the Qur'an. We hypocritically revere and idolize the Qur'an because although we claim that its source is Divine, we are indifferent to its message.

Alhamdulillah, Allah rescued me from this state of ignorance. Alhamdulillah, I can recite the Qur'an with some fluency, I can translate many words of the Qur'an from memory. Alhamdulillah, I can do tafseer of most of the Qur'an with a few supporting verses and ahadith. Alhamdulillah, I consider myself very lucky. I do not hesitate to state that a vast majority of Muslims today are oblivious of even the basic pillars of Islam and requirements of faith. But Allah has been very generous to me; He endowed upon me the blessing of knowing and understanding His Deen; living with and studying under renowned scholars, possessing scores of authentic and unbiased literature on Islam. But in turn, have I proved myself a worthy adherent? Did the comprehension, books and teachers rectify my life? How well am I serving Allah? How well am I serving humanity? What am I doing with my life?

I still shudder when I see the news, the  blood-curdling slaughter, rapine and destruction, the tales of incest, rape and other vile obscenities that make headlines everyday. I get more weirded, angry and disgusted everyday. Living in the West, one would think that I would be impressed, by the technological advancement, the sky scrappers and the foods. But I am replused. I hold the Western society in abhorrence. It stands for drunkardness, debauchery and oppression. Alhamdulillah, again I have a chance to change all of that. I am privileged to earn a degree in political science. I can go to Law School. I can work for justice. But I am not! I am taking these favours for granted. Shame on me!

Monday, July 16, 2012

The Criminal Mind - of children

Children are cute fuzzy little cuddly things until they become teenagers. The Cambridge (England) study in Delinquent Development studied over 400 boys from age 8-25, in the years 1961 - 1980. This study offered psychologists a wealth of data associated with offending with respect to gender, socioeconomic class, income, parenting and race. Scientists Thornberry and Figlio concluded: (a)The peak ages for most offenses is 16-17 years; (b) juvenile and adult crime are closely related; (c) as the number of convictions increases beyond six, so the probability of further convictions become greater; (d) juveniles convicted at the earliest ages (10-12) become the most persistent offenders. In this post, I hope to outline the criminal thinking patterns most common young offenders and contrast them with Allah-fearing and virtuous intelligence and reasoning in the child companions of the Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w). I had to write an essay on the rise of youth offenders. I am sharing my notes from two scholarly readings: (1) "Cognitive-Behavioural Interventions with Young Offenders" by Clive R. Hollin and (2) "Child Companions around the Prophet (peace be upon him) by Sameh Strauch (Darussalam). The purpose of this post is to help start a discussion on saving our children from criminal impulses and raising them with Islamic disposition.

Several cognitive theories claim that young offenders share 50 styles and errors of thinking which defines their criminal minds. These theories encompass the following conclusions:

  • Ross and Fabiano blame criminal activity on the omission of thought between impulse and action. They say that children lack reflection; they fail to stop and think; fail to generate alternative responses to conflicts. 
  • Rotter suggests young offenders lack internal control; they perceive their behaviour as determined by influences outside their personal control such as luck, friends and authority figures. 
  • Chandler reports young offenders lack empathy, that is, they are incapable of seeing things from someone else's perspective; they do not have the capacity to care at an emotional level - they are egocentric. 
  • Hain and Ryan explain that young offenders have a moral problem; they have self-serving, hedonistic and anti-social values. 
"Psychology and Crime" by R.V.G Clarke, 1977, Bulletin of the British Psychological Society, 30, p.281 address the elements contributing to the occurrence of a criminal events in children. he article claimed that early environment and upbringing (broken homes, inconsistent discipline, criminal father etc) coupled heredity traits like low IQ, emotional lability, poor conditionality etc cause cognitive criminal behaviour. Children living under these conditions are most likely to develop criminal personalities: become extraverted, impulsive and aggressive. This is especially true if children are young, boys and unskilled. Living circumstances and crisis events like inner-city residence, delinquent associates, truant football fan, drinking over the weekends or failing a course, getting beaten up in school, having a friend who was arrested etc also strengthens criminal behaviour. The criminal act is finally trigged when such children are perhaps on a poorly lit street with no police patrols, nearby unlocked cars or self-service shops; they are bored, fed-up, want money or thrill and they see low risk in crime and high reward. 

You must be thinking, my kid is not a criminal. Though this may be true, it will still be pretty ghastly to know that according to the Youth Criminal Justice Act 2006, for every 100,000 youth in Canada between the ages of 12-17, 8000 were charged with criminal code offenses (excluding traffic), and additional 4000 were charged with property crime and 2000 more with violent crimes. Canada produced 14,000 criminal children in just one year! So alhamdulillah, if your kid is not stealing or hurting someone, but they may be hanging out with other children who are. This puts your kid at risk of being exposed to learning crime or worse, becoming an accessory to crime.

The world in which our  live, learn and play is a mirror or their atittute and expectations. Our children are bound to behave like the environment we leave them in. So it is important to select their school, friends - programs they watch on TV, games they play etc with the greatest care, because this very "environment" is the mental feeding ground out of which the food that goes into their minds is extracted. This is how they shape their beliefs, interpret values and attach meaning to events.

Ramadaniyoon


I can't believe its been a year already. I remember writing about Ramadan not so long ago and here I am again, trying to rekindle the fasting spirit. What is life but a series of events? Each event seems like a long episode, more significant than all the previous occurrences in our life but after some time, it too becomes a mirage in the oasis of our memories. 

Each Ramadan I make resolutions to strength my emaan. I fast in repentance, to seek forgiveness and for deliverance from punishment. Yes, fasting is much more than not consuming food and drink for certain hours during the day. It is a meditation and sacrifice of sorts. Its toning, humbling and awakening the soul. 

Any act often repeated soon becomes a habit. Some people habitually clean, play video games, eat, facebook, bike, sleep. Its like they cannot realize any other purpose in life except what they already are accustomed to doing. To be honest, my mom likes to cook. If she can spare a single breathing moment away from students, she will stand in the kitchen and cook - even when no one is hungry. She will be so tired from standing and teaching that her ankles will swell and crack but she will continue to servant the stove. I don't know this but I can guarantee you that my mom even dreams about recipes when asleep. My father on the other hand loves to sleep. Period. He will sleep even if there are people around. He fell asleep during my wedding. My husband also has his share of interests that occupy his time. Granted, we all suffer from very carnal routines. So I think of Ramadan as an event to cap our base passions and desires that dictate the pattern of our existence. Fasting from food is not the entire reason for Ramadan, Fasting is for Allah.
Every year, right before Ramadan, I feel a distance between myself and my Rabb. I really don't know how it works but exactly when I begin to feel an emptiness and sadness in my heart because of neglecting my commitments to Allah; socializing too much; not spending enough time with Him and not spending enough time doing things for Him - subhanAllah, its Ramadan.

We defile ourselves with our obsecene and wasteful habits. Fasting is not a ritual, a diet program or a punishment. In truth, fasting is for getting closer to Allah via sacrifice of material things. The motive of fasting is to take our eyes off the things of this world and to focus them completely on Allah; the reward of the Hereafter. Fasting is a way to demonstrate to Allah, and to ourselves that we are serious about our servitude to Him. Again, many people just fixate more over sleep and food during Ramadan when this month is for redirecting our attention and loyalties to Allah. It is an opportunity to express ourselves as individuals living for the reason of worship, virtue and simplicity. 

Maybe this makes us Ramadniyoon - Muslims who are conscious of Allah only in Ramadan? If not the entire year, if not every day, at least alhamdulillah, in Ramadan we remember Allah. Something is better than nothing right? So lets do something this Ramadan. Lets do something that will help us remember Allah always. I personally don't like sharing my plans lest I lose barakah in my intention and efforts. But since Ramadan is so ravishing, we should make special exceptions, thereby encouraging each other

1a.  Salah is our best connection with Allah, I want to inshaAllah study Namaz-e-Nabwi with Dr. Farhat 
1b. Memorize new duaas to recite in Salah inshaAllah
2. Journey to Allah by ibn Rajab inshaAllah
3. Recitation of complete Qur'an inshaAllah