When we become too focused on other people, we unconsciously reshape our views, priorities and intentions out of fear or want of their acceptance and approval. In the same way, we are sometimes embarrassed to excel in the Deen because we are over-concerned about what everyone else is doing and how everyone thinks of us.
Its human to mimic other humans. We all do that sometimes when suddenly adopt a certain fashion or persona, change career, car or house after seeing a friend or a colleague do the same. But trying to be someone we are not will always leave us feeling unfulfilled, however much we admire the change. The only true way to be happy is to enjoy our individuality. And in this case, become relaxed and comfortable with the unique perspectives, quirks and idiosyncrasies revealed by Allah.
What will people think of me? What if I don't fit in anymore?
Sometimes it is just our imagination that scares and demotivates us. So challenge your thinking to overcome negativity. "Hold on, I am not doing this for Allah? This is to make my Creator happy. And how do I know people are not going to like me? Some people will like me, some will think I'm okay, and some might be indifferent. "
See the best in others by not assuming that they see the worst in us. Maybe they will be inspired by us one day and follow our example? Maybe all they needed was some motivation and after seeing us so dedicated to our studies and salah they also want to join (inshaAllah).
Remember: people will think what they'll think. If someone forms an opinion of us based on superficiality, then it is up to them, not us, to reform those opinions based on a more objective and rational view.
Some of us come from really competitive families or friends' circles. We may have siblings or relatives, neighbours or colleagues who think and treat us as if we are less intelligent or talented than them. Their behaviour becomes even more narcissist when we start practicing Islam. They will seek attention by putting us down and criticizing our new-found interest/preoccupation with Islam. This may affect our own self-esteem and struggle. We may resort doubting our self or worst, we may end up showing off our ibadaah or knowledge to fish for compliments. So it is best to walk away from any confrontation or competition with show-offs. They need an audience to boast about their achievements so don't encourage them by listening to their over-inflated ego. Keep emotions at bay, we don't need to defend ourselves because our reward is with Allah. Alhamdulillah Allah gave us the opportunity to see Him in a new light and comprehend His religion. Our views deflect because they don't understand the value of Allah or appreciate the blessing of Islam. Either give Dawah to these show-off with patience or stay abreast from their influence.
