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Thursday, January 29, 2015

My Response to the New Physical Health Curriculum

Note: The following presentation notes are for readers older than 18 years of age. 



I am really thankful to be here and I want to thank you all for taking part in this conversation. My goal this afternoon is to inspire you and challenge you to be even more active in your child’s education. Parents, especially mothers, are precious assets in their children’s education. We want to see our kids excel and succeed in school. Many of us immigrated to Canada because we wanted a better education for our children. A good education means that our kids will have a good future. We want them to go to school because we want them to be well-rounded and well-informed individuals  in maths, sciences, history, geography and English. At the same time we hope that our kids will pick up a few good manners at school and become resourceful enough to make a mark for themselves in the world. Unfortunately, we are at a point in history where we are the education system is no longer delivering the quality of education that we had hoped. 

Plato, the famous Greek philosopher said, "The direction in which education starts a man will determine his future in life". Whatever our children learn today because of this Physical Health curriculum,  their character and personality, their life's choices and goals will reflect it tomorrow. The sexual lifestyle and practices  which are being normalized for them in class will become the way they conduct themselves as adults. 
John F. Kennedy said, "a child miseducated is a child lost." God forbid, our children learn something immoral, deplorable or vile in health class – they will loose their innocence forever. We cannot make them unlearn or forget the heinous sexual content once they are exposed to it. As parents, our biggest fear is to lose our children physically to death, disease, accident or some other tragedy. What is equally dangerous is losing our children’s hearts and minds to sin. We do not want to be in a relationship with our children were they are convinced or worse, they enjoy homosexuality or promiscuity, and we cannot persuade them otherwise. Our advises and our counsel failes to penetrate to them. They become so staunch in their rebellion and sexual sin that there is no way we can bring them back to purity. May Allah save us from this type of tragedy ameen.
Theodore Roosevelt said, "To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." Education without good morals, the right ethics and spiritual guidance is disastrous and self-destructive. We came to this country to raise doctors, engineers, lawyers, pilots, not sexually perverse individuals. May Allah save our children from this ameen.
Finally, Nelson Mandela said, "Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world." The Physical Health curriculum affects not just our kids and our immediate environment at home, it will have a global impact. As parents maybe we have only 10-20 years to live. This curriculum will have an impact on our many generations to come. Therefore it is high-time we gather information and take an active stance.
I understand this topic is very conversational, emotions are high and rightly so. I appreciate the gravity of this discussion and inshaAllah I will take you through the curriculum step by step so that you understand everything. Please keep an open mind inshaAllah, I am not here to convert you to my point of view. You know what is good for you, for your child and your family. I can only request you that you use the best of your reasoning and intellect to choose the most appropriate course of action.

As a teacher, I feel I need to reach out to parents so they understand what their kids are up against. I love my students and I am here because I understand that this curriculum affects them deeply. It is a very sensitive topic and I am uncomfortable to speak about it so publicly. However, I feel if no one voices their concern now and takes immediate action, it will be too late to do anything at all.

I fall back on the hadith of the Prophet (s.a.w) who praised the tenacity of the women of Ansaar for asking questions about marriage and hygiene. So inshaAllah, lets put our personal shyness aside. However, I do strongly request that you do not video record me or audio record this presentation. Please do not take any pictures as I wear the niqab (cover my face) and I do not want to lose my modesty while telling you to save your children’s modesty. JazakAllahu khayran, I am looking forward to your complete cooperation in this regard. 



InshaAllah lets talk about what is already in place.
In 2012 Ontario Public schools passed and implemented Bill 13 “Accepting Education Act” or “Accepting Schools Act.” This law is a cultural shift mandating our children to embrace homosexual and transgender practices and lifestyle.
This translates into:
a.homosexual student clubs imposed upon elementary schools.
b.Children learning disputed 6 gender theory in classroom (students question their gender and sexuality, come up with their identity).
c.Classrooms contain gay, lesbian and transgender poster, flyers, colourful story books to normalize homosexuality.
d.Elementary schools host Gay Pride Parade. Teachers perform mock  gay student marriages.
There is a disparaging and negative bias against students who hesitate to participate in these activities. They are bullied accepting homosexual attitudes, if they do not, they are ostracised. 



The New Accepting Schools Act/Bill 13 has been incorporated in subjects such as, English Reading, Social Studies, Science, Math, Gym, special days, etc. For example, last year Public Schools celebrated “pink day” and on this occasion a story book “My Chacha Is Gay”  had been read in English Reading Class in Pakistani/Muslim  community neighborhood  public schools. The characters belong to Pakistan.

The Pictorial story book [written by Nice Mangoes; a Desi writer] my Chahcha is Gay tells; “Meet Ahmed! He is a Pakistani and lives in the city of Karachi. He lives with his mother, father and baby sitter, his chacha, and his dadi. Chacha is Abu’s brother. People think Chacha is different because he is gay. That doesn’t change anything, especially not how much fun they have together. Chacha has a friend called Uncle Faheem, he is a pilot. Ahmed desn’t understands when people say that only men and women can “love” each other. Because everyone can see how much chacha and Uncle Faheem “love” each other. The way Ahmed’s mother and father love each other is the same way chacha and Uncle Faheem love each other.”

What I beg to know is, who decides when any adult bedroom activity becomes educational material for grades 1,2 and 3?



Bill 33 (Freedom of Gender Expression Act). The implication of this ACT is that it gives men who dress like women access to girl’s washrooms, public showers and pool change rooms. This threaten  girls and women by putting them at greater risk from male sexual predators. Any boy or man can pretend to be a transgendered person or cross dresser and enter a female only private space.

In 2010, Premier Dalton McGuinty announced a revised physical health curriculum, the brain child of Kathleen Wynne who was then the education Minister of Ontario. The curriculum was so controversial that the liberals feared losing their popularity/government over it. However, now that Kathleen Wynne is the Premier, the physical health curriculum will be reinstated effective September 2015.
In 2010 the government agreed that the proposed content in the sex ed component of the 2010 Health and Phys Ed Guidelines was too graphic, not age appropriate, and that the curriculum needed a serious rethink. At the time it was promised the province would “provide opportunities for parents to lend shape to [sex-ed] policy with which they are more comfortable;”

Kathleen Wynne is a homosexual. LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender) group has take control over strategic power places in Ontario, especially the education department. They have claimed that Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms belongs to them exclusively, they do not want to give ethnic minorities any rights to preserve and transfer their culture and their religion to children. As a political science graduate from UfT, it is an anti-democratic attitude. The Canadian political system is founded upon one-man, one-vote philosophy. Every individual has equal right to free speech, thought, religion, assembly and press. It is the government’s responsibility to accommodate everyone, even if they are a minority. Canada has withheld multicultural laws for decades, and so I urge you to make your presence visible; demand the government to stop preferring the LGBT group above everyone else. 



 The physical health curriculum was written under the direction of Bejamin Levin. He was the Deputy Minister of Education in 2004 and 2009. In 2010 he supervised the making of this controversial curriculum. He was Wynne’s second hand.
Interestingly enough, in 2003, he was  charged with 7 counts of child pornography. Child pornography is when you take pictures and videos of children posing sexually or performing sexual acts. 

Alas on January 16, of this year, Levin pleaded guilty to all those 7 counts of pornography. He confessed to  accessing, possessing, writing and distributing child pornography, counselling someone to commit sexual assault, and making an arrangement with a police officer to commit sexual assault. Ask yourself, if you came to this country to have your children’s school run by sexual predators and paedophiles. 





The lobby groups advocating for this physical health curriculum at the Parliament level are:
-OPHEA (The Ontario Physical & Health Education Association):  partners with a "sex education expert" called Sexpressions which offers explicit, classroom teaching aids like "The Guide To Getting It On Book.“
-Planned Parenthood Toronto:  promotes abortion, anal play (e.g. fisting), sex toys, and the viewing of pornography.
-Queer Ontario: Please read their mission and vision on their website. They believe in tying up people and using violence during physical intimacy.
-Communist Party of Canada: who believe in removing all concepts of God, theology and religion from society.
These groups want to plant their seed in our children’s classrooms so our children can internalize  and embody their ideologies and lifestyle.



This is what the Physical Health Curriculum textbook looks like.
Parts of it were revealed in 2010 but because the content was so graphic and age inappropriate, it was called back. This is the same book which is not going to be adopted in schools across the GTA starting Sept. 2015
Psychiatric and Pediatric associations agree that children should not be forced to engage in lesson content/information that they are not asking about, and that doing,  can lead to negative consequences.




In grade 1, children 6 years of age and younger will be shown pictures of body parts, including private parts; they will learn the anatomically correct names for each private part: penis, testicles, vagina, vulva. 
Traditionally, we train our kids to cover themselves; we teach them to respect their bodies by not exposing it to others. However, in grade 1 they will learn to reveal their private parts, they will see posters and flash cards of private parts, they will learn to touch the private area, identity it on themselves and on others.




In Grade 3 students will introduced to the topic of gender identity and sexual orientation.
For example, through my Chacha is Gay storybook, students will learn it is normal and acceptable for two boys or two girls to love each other physically like mom and dad love each other.  To an extent I believe this part of the curriculum is already being taught in schools. 




Children will be challenged to question their gender identity. They will play roles in which they dress and behave like the opposite gender. The teacher will encourage them to experiment being a member of the opposite gender and if they feel comfortable they can adopt that gender, irrespective of what they already are physically. Obviously this will breed question and confusion among children. Confusion related to gender identity is recognized as a mental disorder by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic & Statistics Manual. This is what I meant by earlier when I said our kids will lose their minds if they are miseducated.

In Grade 4, our 9 year olds will learn about romantic dating. Teachers will tell our kids that they can be more than friends with they classmates; they can have physical feelings and emotions towards their classmate or the same gender or opposite gender.




Grade 6 is about the promotion of self-discovery through masturbation.
Our 12 year old daughter and son, who is not even a teenager yet will be asked in class to explore his or her body by touching their private parts, masturbating and pleasuring their body. From an Islamic perspective, masturbation is haram (forbidden), it is a act of zinah (adultery).

In Grade 7, at age 13, our kids class will learn about how to have anal intercourse oral genital contact (oral sex).




In Anal Play 101 class in grade 8, they will learn about how to put toys and hand in someone’s butt. In making sex feel good unit, they will be asked to look at sexy magazines and movies to investigate what arouses and seduces them.
As a woman I feel all us can relate that if we found any of our husbands seeing or doing what our kids will be exposed to in grade 6 and 8, we would be extremely hurt and furious. We would hate for our husbands to be involved in this form of sin, we would stop talking to them and perhaps many of us will end our marriages - then how can we allow our children to access to this type of miseducation and filthy education.

Sexuality is an appetite which can become extremely addictive. The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said “the greatest fitnah for his Ummah will be women.” In other words, he feared that people after him will be consumed by sexual sin. It will take over their lives to such an extent that they will not be able to do anything else.
Grown men have a hard time lowering their gaze, adults check into clinics to get treatment for addiction to pornography then our young children, whose minds are still developing, can be easily manipulated and ruined forever by this curriculum. Kids sometimes can’t even tie their shoelace correctly, forget to look both ways when crossing the street, they need help with homework. They are vulnerable and immature at this stage. They cannot handle the graphic content at all.




What the students will not learn in school is that HIV is on the RISE in Toronto.
The Ontario government publishes a report on the spread of HIV every 4 years. In a study collecting data between 2005 to 2008, it found that almost 1 in 4 gay people who live in Toronto (21.9%), are currently infected with HIV. In  2012 public health report revealed that 1 out of every 3 actively gay men in Toronto is infected with HIV .




US and UK adopted this curriculum a few years ago. The following is just an example of the damaging affects of this curriculum:

1.Deresa Poe, a physical health teacher at Olkahoma Waynoka High School was arrested for having sex with an under-age student

2. A lawsuit is filed against a Kubistant (professor) in Western Navada College. On the first day of class he told the students, “he will increase their sexual urges to such a height that they won’t be able to think about anything other than sex.” They have to write 250 word 3 journal entries discussing their personal sexual thoughts. And for an assignment, the students were forced to masturbate in class, in front of each other. (Huffington Post)

This reminds me of the people of Lut (a.s); Allah describes them metaphorically as being drunk and intoxicated by their sexual perversion because they had lost complete control over themselves. They could not control their sexual impulse. The desire had overwhelmed them completely, they had become senseless, like raging animals. The end goal of the physical health curriculum is the same.
The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said that “modesty is a branch of faith”. When a person loses his modesty, he will inevitably lose his faith. Meaning, faith/imaan cannot exist in a person’s heart who has no modesty – someone who does not feel shyness about his body, his thoughts are not pure and engages with people lustfully. Such a person will not have the time to think about Allah and do good deeds because he is constantly preoccupied with indecent things.
 The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) also said that “when a person loses his modesty, let him do whatever he wants.” In other words, a person without modesty is incapable of doing good deeds. You cannot expect anything good from him. As I was saying earlier, without spiritual guidance, he becomes a menace to society.

3. Free Mont California: physical health program for 9th grades was shut down because 2000 parents petitioned against it. One of the parents wrote in the petition letter that, “I saw the textbook, and it is definitely not education at all. This will pollute minds of children, and at my age I call this book disgusting and sickening.

4. A principal of a private boarding school in Cambridge England told the media that he is going to bring porn stars to teach children sex-ed.
Who is to say that the same perversion will not find its way in Ontario when the new curriculum is reinstated? Who can guarantee that teachers who are teaching such graphic and erotic material will not sexually prey on our children? Who can guarantee our children will not be forced to partake in sexual acts in class?




In Canada, For every 1000 children born in Ontario, 61 are born to unmarried teenage mothers who are only 15-19 years old. This is a statistic from government Health Canada.
In New Brunswick, the government tried the same curriculum approach in 2005, and teen pregnancies increased 40% between 2006 and 2010. [ McKay, A., (2013), Trends in Canadian national and provincial/territorial teen pregnancy rates: 2001 – 2010. The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, Vol. 21, No. 3 & 4, p. 165.]
According to a sexual assault report, Ontario Coalition of Rape Crisis Centre, 58% of all sexual assault victims in Canada are children under the age of 18.
-1 in 3 girls in Grade 8 state that they were brushed u against in a sexual way, touched, grabbed or pinched in a sexual way.
-27% of Grade 11 students say that they were pressured and forced by a someone at school to have sexual intercourse. 15% these students performed oral sex to avoid sexual intercourse.
This was in 2004, imagine what will happen after this hyper sexual curriculum is adopted throughout all public schools.  Even if your child is not completed damaged and lost, he or she is at risk of having classmates and friends who may encourage or even demand from your child, some form of sexual contact and activity.
Are you ready to surrender your children in an environment of sexual monstrosity? The teachers are not going to say anything because they believe it is healthy and an educational experience for children to act out on their sexual impulses. Your child’s mind and body will not be safe if this curriculum is reinstated.




MashaAllah many Christians groups have rallied up against the curriculum. I have used one of their petitions as a template to draft a template for the Muslim community which we can sign and send to our MPs inshaAllah. We really need to show solidarity in cause to save our children.




Please type in, “Find your MP” in the google search engine. It will take you to a Parliament of Canada website. Please plug in your postal code and the MP, address and email of your MP will be drawn up inshaAllah. Use this information to send your petition. 




Please write to Sr. Sumera, even if it is only a line stating your concern and disapproval of the curriculum. She will use all the emails she receives to voice our petition in the Legislative Assembly inshaAllah




I understand that not everyone can afford Islamic school tuitions and I know many of us are a bit intimidated by the homeschooling option. A few of my friends who are young mothers are going to try it out starting this year inshaAllah. I believe that our kids deserve to benefit from our education the most. Even if we do not have any Canadian qualifications, many of us have degrees from back home which we can employ to teach our kids at home. We don’t have to do it alone. A group of sisters can homeschool their children together, this way the responsibility is shared. One sister can teach science, one can do math, one can do english etc. Please go through this website, it will indicate that it is your right to choose whether you want your child to be educated in the public school system or in the private sector. You can register your kids to be homeschooled and the Ministry of Education will send you textbooks and worksheets free of cost. 




The aforementioned facebook groups are run by sisters who have taken the initiative to educate their kids at home. You can follow them online and get tips from them; they will send you worksheets inshaAllah.




The presentation this afternoon was not possible without the hardwork of Al Fawz Academy staff and parent volunteer, Sr. Rukhsana. I am really grateful that they arranged this comfortable space for us to have this conversation. I would like to point out that this weekend Islamic School has done a phenomenal job in presenting Islam to kids in a fun and interative manner.
As parents we are fighting our battle at two fronts: we have speak to the MP and the school board to clean up our kids’ classrooms by sending them letters, going to meet them in groups, attending parent-teacher meetings etc. At the same time we must make sure that we provide our kids with a vibrant Islamic environment both at home and outside of the home so they feel connection with their Deen. Get them involved in the Masjid. Al-Falah Masjid has boys and girls sports teams. Bring them once a month to ISNA to help out in their soup kitchen for the needy. Send them to a weekend school where can learn about Islam with other Muslim kids their age and ask questions without feeling judged or embarrassed. It is very important we find a program for our kids where the teachers can relate to them, they are friendly and they present Islam to them in a language and in a manner that they can enjoy.




Al-Fawz Academy mashaAllah empowers kids. Our students are confident about the Deen mashaAllah, they give presentations, they lead assemblies. Our aim at Al-Fawz is not for the kids to appreciate Islam at heart but also live it, be vocal and active about it. Our kids are our greatest investment. After we are gone, they are the bean of light we are leaving behind for this world.




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Thursday, January 1, 2015

What is reality?


وما الحياة الدنيا إلا متاع الغرور 

“And what is the life of this world except the enjoyment of delusion.” [Aal-3:185]


Reality is the state of things as they actually exists, it is seeing the world for what it really is. Allah says, the reality of this world is like a fool's paradise - all the excitement this world offers is are based false hopes and illusions. The indulgences are brief and the pleasures are short-lived. The reality of this world is that it is not forever and it is not the final destination of human beings. 

الحياة الدنيا - “Al-Hayaat-ud-Dunyaa” – literally means ‘the closer life or the inferior life’ as
الدنيا -“Ad-Dunyaa” is the feminine word of
الدني - “Adnaa”, which means ‘closer, lower, inferior, less in duration, less in number, less in quality’
The life of this world is not the actual life, it is only a part of our alternate better existence in the Hereafter. 

متاع - “ Mataa’ ” – literally means gratification, a transient object of delight, pleasure, enjoyment, necessity of life or maintenance.
متاع - Mataa’ is something you use  and it does not satiate one's desires, the more mataa' you have, the more you covet it. This could be a new car, house, etc. You will always see something else and you’ll want more.  It can be something insignificant as well. The Arabs prior to the revelation of Quran used to call the rag utensil they used to wash to their dishes with as متاع/
غرور - "Ghurur” – literally means self-deception, guile, illusion, delusion, gullible, conceit, to make vain promises, to lull into false security. It originates from the verb
غار - “Ghaara” which means to take advantage of someone while they are not paying attention.
غرور -  ”Ghurur” is a form of ignorance that causes you to believe lies and delusion to be the truth, and bad to be good. It is caused by the presence of doubtful matters. lblees deludes us ( غرور) as much as we allow him.

Al-Mustawrid Al-Fihry related from the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam that he said,"The Dunya, as compared to the Hereafter is just like when one of you dips his finger in the sea! Let him see how much (water) it (his finger) will carry." (Sahih Al-Jami')
Ibn al-Jawzi makes the following beautiful analogy:“The dunya is more enchanting than (the magic) of Haroot and Maroot. For Haroot and Maroot taught (what caused) separation between a man and a wife; while the dunya causes separation between the slave and his Rubb!”

Life is a temporary - whether it is extremely comfortable or difficulty, it will soon fade away. Therefore, take obedience to Allah and do not be misled by the passing charms of this inferior worldly life.

'Tis is the season to go shopping

Let's be honest - even if we are not mall crazy for most of the year, the Christmas season brings out the shopaholics in all of us. Every year, we are lured into beautifully lit stores, the aroma of  caramelized brown sugar, molasses, vanilla and cinnamon sweets tugs at our feet, pulling us towards its direction and the finest sales on cashmere coats, scarfs and stilettos calls out our names. Shopping during the holiday season has become so ingrained in our culture, that it even plays a key role in the RIS Convention (Reviving the Islamic Spirit Conference), which has nothing to do with Christian history or tradition. 

In this day an age, religion is driven by commercialism, rather religion has become commercialism. I am afraid Christians have substituted God with Santa Claus who serves as a front for guilty adults who ignore their spouses and children for most of the year. Christmas has become a charades of presents, dinner tables, winter scenes and elves. Muslims are also guilty of lusting over material things during Ramadan, the only difference is that we use fewer lights and décor. Even for the 20,000 Muslims at RIS this year, the focal point of worship shifted from God and Islamic scholarship to the food courts and shopping bazaars.


It is not difficult to recognize that shopping, in itself is not to blame. We need commerce and sales to create jobs and to sustain ourselves. I am grateful that I live in a an economically thriving part of the world because it means my family is well provided for, alhamdulillah. So I am not writing off shopaholics as bad people. What am writing about is the demerits of shopping out of envy or 
covetousnessEnvy and covetousness are two dormant volcanoes which become especially active with holiday sales'. We need reflection and meditation over Allah's Words, the Qur'an, to overcome the sins of envy and covetousness. 
Envy is begrudging another person's blessings. Envy enters when we see someone else happily buying things we do not have, we feel ourselves called into question. Then, out of hurt of our wounded self-esteem, we covet the same things to make ourselves feel better. Envy asks, "Why should I not enjoy what others enjoy?" and translates into dark, evil, competitive selfishness. Envy is the sin that caused Iblis to disobey Allah; it took the life of Habil. No doubt, envy impedes our growth to spiritual maturity and inspires destructive behaviour. 

Like most men, my husband is completely anti-shopping, he doesn't like the stress of bumping into people at the mall or the cultural pressure to spend a lot of money during holidays. Instead of spending 15 hours trying to find and wrap gifts for everyone, doing groceries then cooking for a banquet, which is what I like to do, he prefers to spend that time with loved-ones - talking, swapping old stories and sharing laughter and warm hugs with the kids. We are learning that real relationships are based on hospitality as much as they are based on fully-devotional, heart-to-heart conversations and cuddles.

However, when some of us see crowded lines at the cash register checking out Stand Mixers, Tassimo Coffee makers, and 65'' Cinema LD TV at 50% discount, we are overcome by envy and we run to the mall. Truth be told, finding a parking spot in an ocean of cars, wrestling against a wave of shoppers to reach the end of an aisle, then coming home to realize there is no room to make space for the new purchases. And that we have spent well beyond our means is a headache (or heartache depending on who paid) no amount of Advil and self-loathing can cure. 
Among the top contender of issues causing marital problems is shopping and party planning. Many times, the wife spends too much money or overcomits herself to a social event which spurs unnecessary arguments with the husband. Trust me ladies, you will not enjoy any sliver sterling or t5i when it causes bitter fights at home. Your marriage is more sacred than what money can buy and the guests you wish to impress. Do not stress and strain your beautiful relationship with your husband with your insatiable desires for more things, better things, things your friends have that you complain you'll never get.  By complaining, you are causing your husband immense pain. You are not only criticizing him but also Allah who decreed his rizq (finances). 
The burden of bills, the household and your personal necessities falls upon your husband. Support him in taking care of you by being thankful and prudent with his money. The task of each Muslim woman is to do all that she can with what Allah has given her. She is not to resent what has been given to others and is not to feel she needs to covet what others have. She is a faithful steward of the gifts, blessings and experiences that have been provided to her. 

‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar (r.a) said, "While on the Ark, [Prophet] Nooh (‘alayhis-salam) noticed an old man whom he did not recognise. Nooh inquired: ‘What brought you here?’ 
He replied: ‘I came to strike the hearts of your followers, so their hearts become with me, while their bodies with you.’ 
Nooh responded: ‘Leave O enemy of Allah.’
Iblis said: ‘There are five things that cause people to become destroyed (deviated). I will inform you of three and not of the other two’. It was revealed to Nooh that he needed not know the three, but that he should enquire about the two.”
Iblis said: ‘The two that are certain to work are: envy - I was cursed because of my envy, and became a stoned devil. And the second is covetousness (eagerness to have more) - The entire paradise was made permissible to Adam (‘alayhis-salam) . I got what I wanted from him because of his covetousness.’

Source: Ibn Abee al-Dunya in Maka’d al-Shaytaan , 65/ 44.
Posted from the Book – The Devil’s Deceptions (Talbis Iblis): By Imam Abu’l Faraj Ibn Al Jawzi, Dar as-sunnah Publishers. Page 74


The entire premise of the holiday season and RIS shopping spree is based on envy and covetousness. It conditions us to act on impulse and to feel better about ourselves with purchases. Corporations appeal to the selfish and self-centered aspects of our nature, fuelling the philosophy that excess is happiness. Happiness, self-worth and good relations can't be purchased at a store. 
Our identity and contentment in life cannot be found at the plaza or food court, it comes from within the Qur'an. Deciding to appreciate our circumstances and level of our possessions will free us from constantly trying to define ourself and mend our relations with material things. 

Alhamduillah, there is a cure for envy and covetousness. The cure is contentment. Contentment is found in comparing ourselves not with the people who go shopping everyday, but with the Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) and his companions (r.a). If they were here now, they would probably focus more on helping the 805 million people without food and 750 million people without water than getting free shipping on Armani watches and Cecico apparel. There are so many charities that are neglected during the holiday season. We can root out our envious cravings by buying material possessions for the needy, paying people complements and by encouraging them to meet their righteous goals.
Contentment also comes in setting our minds on heavenly matters, by living under a constant sense of divine presence and by seeking the pleasure of Allah in all our actions, inshaAllah we can casts out our envy. True faith lifts our desires into a higher region. The more of heaven there is in our lives, the less of the earthly thigns we shall covet.