SuperMom

Conceiving a human being and parenting it - from delivering to nursing and potty training, transitioning it to sleep alone at night to teaching it how to read and write; coping with its teenage tantrums and spending on its interest expansion -  is perhaps the most difficult job on earth. This is why motherhood incorporates forbearance, long-suffering, perseverance, patience and composure.
A mother is Allah's vessel for the procreation of future generations. Her hand which rocks the cradle, rules the world for many centuries to come. Therefore, relationship between the mother and her kids should be one that will bring peace in the hearts and in the homes. No matter what occurs inside the family and outside, a mother needs to raise her kids with utmost prudence, guidance and love.

The following is a to-do list for mom, recommended by Dr. Farhat Hashmi in her lecture, "Achhi Maain Achhi Naslain": 

1. A mother embodies all the good qualities she wishes to transfer to her children. Especially when it comes to Islamic education, it is basically imitation; children tend to imitate the attitudes of their parents. They never lose sight of their parents praying, reciting the Qur'an and following the sunnah in little matters. They have some kind of radar, which detects everything their parents are saying and doing. They absorb the values and repetition of the behaviours which they see in their parents. 

Therefore, parents educate or un-educate, first, through their example, and particularly, through the orientation they give to their whole existence; in the end,
a) either to love of self, the TV, the dunya
b) or to love of Allah and, in akhirah and for the Deen.

2. A mother prays for what she desires her children to become. Imaam Bukhari's mom used to pray tahajjudd and cry endlessly in supplication for her son which led him to become the most legendary scholar of all times. Hannah (a.s) was also devoted to prayer for her kid and focused on protecting her child from the influences of shaytan. The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) made dua for his baby cousin to be educated in the Qur'an. 

3. A mother speaks to people (especially her husband, her parents and in-laws) as if they are wise, kind, beautiful human beings, for her children will treat people the way they see their mother.

4. A vast majority of mothers work and earn their own money. More often than not, moms expect dads to pay for all of their children's expense. This frequently leads to marital conflict. When a mother spends on her kids from her own money, she gets the reward of giving double sadaqah (charity).  Abdullah bin Masoud's wife (r.a) was a working woman and she would spend a portion of her salary on taking care of their kids. 

5. The whole process of meals  and snacks - packing lunches, coming up with a versatile menu, preparing the food and cleaning up is like getting a root canal and a kidney stone removed at the same time.  No matter how gruelling, feeding children in a mother's primary responsibility. A mother who takes the time to feed her kids will be protected from Hellfire. A woman came to Aisha (r.a)'s house and requested something to eat. She gave the woman three dates. The woman fed the dates to her starving baby girls and went hungry herself. The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said, Allah is so pleased with her sacrifice that He has rescued her from Hellfire. 

6. A mother seeks medical treatment for her kids and does ruqiyah on them. A sahabiyah noticed that her kids get affected with evil eye and fall sick often. The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) gave her permission to do ruqiyah on them. 

7. A mother prepares her kids to pray Salah by the age of 7, she makes her kids fast with her and go for Hajj and Eid salah with her. 

8. A mother teaches children to respect other people's privacy.

9. A mother introduce kids to good environments - friends and relatives, teachers and role models, print and online media that will be a positive influence on them.